If you’ve seen any fight scene in 300 where the Spartans are fighting an avalanche of Persians, imagine that times a hundred when it comes to Paula Patton’s mentions at the moment. The 38-year old actress and her 36-year old husband Robin Thicke have announced their separation after 8 years of marriage and over 20 years together. The pair met when Thicke was 14 & Patton was 16.

In a statement to PEOPLE the couple said, “We will always love each other and be best friends, however, we have mutually decided to separate at this time.”

The two had been married since 2005 and have a three-year old son, Julian.