Wait, you mean I didn’t write this? Yeah, TheEgyptianOne did. I might as well give her and the rest of the ladies who read this blog their own little section. Ah well, blame Trey Songz, R&B videos and general sexuality for this one. I mean, who’s horoscope tells them they are going to be horny as hell the ENTIRE month? Ah well, I’m gonna let her words take over.

From The Egyptian One’s Point of View:

The most thought about thing in the world is SEX. It’s in our music, it’s on TV, whether we’re in the act, or pining to be, there is no denying that sex is all around us. Hell, that Trey Songz video has every girl bracing herself every time it’s on; his name has become a verb, “Trey Songz me, baby!”

And it’s not just here; Bulgaria just had the world’s youngest mother at age 11. The Middle East is constantly fighting the “free spirit” of westernization as it allows the younger generations break of the sexual restrictions that have been the cultural norm.

So why is sex so important to us? And why is it constantly on our mind?

As a Biology major, I have to address the physiological standpoints first. Sex is a natural antidepressant, a major stress reliever, and a great aerobic exercise. It can boost your self-esteem, and even build your immune system, helping you fight the common cold.

Sex (especially when orgasming) also releases certain hormones in the brain, mainly Oxytocin and Dopamine. Oxytocin promotes a feeling of bonding and trust; it also soothes pain, causing a euphoria over the body (hmm…). As Oxytocin surges, endorphins increase making the person experiencing this a certain happiness. Oxytocin also induces sleep.

The other main hormone that is released in the brain during sex is dopamine. THIS is where it gets complicated. Dopamine is the neurotransmitter in your brain that makes you feel addicted, whether it is to sex, drugs, food or video games. You’re not actually craving ice cream, or a winning lotto ticket, or even a romp in the sack. You’re craving the dopamine that is released with these activities. Dopamine is your major motivation, not the item or activity.

The problem with dopamine and oxytocin is that they can confuse the heart. Dopamine can make someone believe that they are in love with their partner, when in fact, it’s just the amount of dopamine released when with that partner is high. Oxytocin can make someone think that the happy feeling they get after an encounter is because of the person, but that’s not exactly the case.

Now, I’m not saying that the whole concept of love and lust and sex have nothing to do with actual feelings, or compatibility, because of course, that has very much to do with it. You can’t feel good with someone, if you’re not compatible with him/her. However, those feelings and emotions have to stem from somewhere.

Which leads to my point that sex complicates life. Sex makes people go CRAZY. I know that everyone has gone through the whole “awkward first time with someone I really like, and now I hope he calls, because I’m gonna feel like a total jumpoff if he doesn’t.. “ feeling. Or the “man, I hope she doesn’t think that happens all the time.. it was the anticipation, I swear!” feeling.

Sex can hinder a relationship so much that genuine communication can stop completely; just so one or both parties can hide their feelings. Sex can either be a very intimate experience, or just plain animalistic, depending on the mindset a person goes into it with. And if both parties have opposite mindsets, it can get pretty ugly.

So what do you do? Don’t have sex. I’m not going on an abstinence trip, because that would be awfully hypocritical. I’m just saying wait. The first step is to make sure that both you and your partner are on the same page, and perhaps you should discuss this BEFORE you take your clothes off. Make sure you discuss the mindsets going into this, because if there is a miscommunication somewhere, someone’s feelings are going to get hurt. Second step, is TALK to the person. It’s amazing how many people sleep with each other without knowing even the person’s last name. I’m not suggesting that learning your partner’s last name is the “fcuk point” but it sure is a start. See if this person is compatible with you on a personal level. Most likely, if he/she is personality compatible with you, that will reflect in the bedroom.

Sex shouldn’t be so flippantly viewed as it is in today’s society. I believe that because it’s viewed as “no big deal” that all this morning-after awkwardness is present. If everyone thought of sex as something special, there wouldn’t be much awkwardness afterwards, aside from who has to cook the pancakes.

Don’t be desensitized to the point that sex is as common as going to the grocery store. It’ll mean so much more if it is taken with stride. Not to mention, all the decreased drama and less crazy people walking around. ☺

.LOVE.is.the.MOVEMENT.
TheEgyptianOne

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