Monogamy slightly doesn’t exist.

Especially with the reluctance to even try these days.

I posted a few months ago on my Facebook account about Ossie Davis & Ruby Dee and how strong their marriage lasted, even with all of the internal drama they faced. It’s crazier these days how out of proportion divorce is these days but I’m seriously questioning the purpose of even being married – which to some is a glorified way is just being boyfriend/girlfriend with extended perks.

I’ve seen this first hand how things can go completely awry in a relationship (on numerous occasions), which slightly makes me weary of even trying again. But I’m not doubting that relationships work, it only makes you wish to achieve more within them. I’ve seen my folks stay together through some weird issues and fights but somehow they’re still there, even though my pops doesn’t have a wedding ring (and why would he, he knows who he’s coming home to err’y night). But back to my point.

After watching and hearing about the tomfoolery that is Nasir Jones v. Kelis Rogers, I’m fully aware that marriage is institutionalized for a reason – because leaving and going back to being an individual without attachment is costly. Not only financially, but mentally as well. Take this for example. Kelis gave birth to Nas’ son Knight yesterday and she barred him from even seeing the newborn. What did Nas do in response? Go out and party his ass off.

What is a scary feeling is that money sadly plays a role in how things go down in relationships, especially marriages. Since Kelis became pregnant and then the following divorce proceedings – a judge ruled in her favor that Nas should be paying $44,000 in support for the baby and her. Not to mention all the other services the little boy deserves and when you factor everything in – the KID is making more than his mom.

$528,000 to be exact.

But, I’m with fellow bloggers on this one with Nas. Pull it together man, at least try to make this work for the sake of people who want to believe that marriage works. Not everyone wants to be like Toya, Tiny and the millions of others who carry children by themselves without full family support.

That is what scares me so much, because there are always exceptions to the rule when it comes to child support. Because sometimes, you aren’t supporting the child’s life, you’re supporting your own. So I’m digging into this food for thought wondering, while relationships may be all fine and dandy and it’s cheaper to keep her, it’s hard as hell going in and trying to come out clean.

Brando

EIC of Day & A Dream, Brando has written for such publications as DJ Booth, Refined Hype & the Houston Press. Wrestling enthusiast, sneaker addict, sports junkie and certified cake eater. Follow him on Twitter: @_brandoc

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